At Saturday, September 09, 2006 11:23:00 PM, Gela's Words
Hey JQ, it's a bit of a challenge dealing with people but listen now. Certain people you don't expect much from, but Dear Beloved shouldn't be one of them. He's human so he'll disappoint you by his actions (or lack thereof in this case) and I'm sure the reverse is true. But in his case, it's not acceptable so I hope you expressed to him how you felt. If you just stay quiet and accept when he messes up, he'll continue. you have to let him know you deserve more.
Cheer up.
At Tuesday, September 12, 2006 2:05:00 AM, SmartBlkWoman
I don't have a boyfriend right now in large part because I don't have the energy to deal with anything other than the crap that I already have on my plate. There is no one to dissappoint me, thus no reason to lower my expectations.
Be strong. You shouldn't lower your expections or become a whiny chick like the other lady to get some attention. Beloved probably didn't even understand how upset you were were unless you told him later on.
I say, you shouldn't lower your expectations for one, but try to be reasonable with what you can expect from them so that you don't end up dissappointed.
At Saturday, September 16, 2006 10:24:00 AM, JamaicanQueen
Chele--Well G-d has made me feel so much better this past week. I was slowly watching my life crash around me but he showed me that all I needed was a bit of faith and patience. Something I was never really good at.
Stunner--I need to start paying attention to what people are doing around me not just what they say they will do.
Gela--I know I should sit with him and talk about it but I figure he'll read this and get the point.
SBW--I know I shouldn't have compared myself to *WhinyChick but I couldn't help it. I was feeling really crabby. lol
Leon--Thanks for the words, but I realized along time ago that as long as I love me, it doesn't matter who doesn't. And baby I LOVE ME SOME ME!!!
Bajan--So yu nuh dead yet??
At Wednesday, September 20, 2006 1:41:00 PM, Curlycurvynervy
I've been checking by here for a while, and always am impressed by your depth and wisdom. Those two traits are evident, as well as your caring nature. You are a lot like myself, I can be tough on outside, but 'rare' on the inside..
Keep your head up, and don't compromise your own integrity to settle for foolishness from others. Respect yourself, and come straight up to your man and let him know that he need to come correct! You bust your azz, and you deserve to get that in return!
Congrats on the new job, and amazing GPA!
I'm not going to tell you to lower your standards.
But
I will say that people will disappoint you. And if you learn to expect that you won't be surprised when it happens. When they decide to come through it will be a pleasant surprise.
I used to place high expectations on people and find myself with hurt feelings all the time. The only people that haven't disappointed me are ME and God. I take that back ... I've disappointed myself plenty of times.